A day or two ago I was walking to grab dinner with someone and this thought came to me and I instantly started writing it in my notes: I was listening to mystery of love by sufjan stevens and as I was leaving my apartment building, someone came in holding a bouquet of flowers assuming for their significant other for valentines this Saturday and being the hopeless romantic I am, I always imagined someone out of the blue that was never gonna get me anything to get me flowers. but suddenly I didn’t. I couldn’t think of anyone I actively wanted to surprise and give me this grand confession and i was actually happy about it. I was glad that no one was gonna get me flowers for Valentine’s Day. This situation is somewhat ironic I will say because my once longed for aspiration may actually come true this valentines the one time I don't want it to. I know a lot of people who absolutely despise valentines day and claiming it is a capitalist's field day, and whether they are in a relationship or not, I think the holiday gets a bad rep. Valentines is my second favorite holiday (first being Halloween of course) and for a species that is emotionally inclined to social interaction and love, we are pretty pessimistic about it. Is it a coping mechanism for lonliness or the growth of social independence from relationships with the help of hookup culture? Around 60%-70% (6 7 sorry) of songs are about love and/or relationships. We may cringe, hate pda, be a whore, whatever, but to some extent where do we draw the line for love? What are we expected to sacrifice for love? Nothing? Everything? Everything about sounds contrdictory if I say so myself, like it's supposed to natural and easy, but requires so much effort and time. I can be pro love, but not want a relationship, exercising my freedom of choice, but I couldn't help but wonder: if the right person came right now are they enough to make us want a relationship? I've heard a lot of right person, wrong time and vice versa. but is this real? is there really such a thing where its right person wrong time?