it has come to my attention, that opposite-sex friendships are a difficult thing to maintain. to prove my point, this year alone three of my guy friends have felt some sort towards me, whether that be romantic or just plain curiosity, nevertheless it is interest. i am flattered what can i say? who doesn't love attention and people wanting them. one of which im actively fwb, but heavy on the friends right now so we will ignore that one for now and focus on the other two. evidently enough, i ended up requesting to stay just friends with both of them and well... one is potentially more positive than the other ish? the first one being receptive (from what i can tell) and it was chill, no hard feelings, we just never really got close to begin with. however, the second one is the reason i'm writing this post. i have plenty of posts on here about the first one, but the second however is a different story. we've been friends for two years now and i'm known to be flirty, especially drunk flirty. one night we make out A LOT. me persoanlly, i was fine with leaving it open ended, like if it happens again, it happens, if it doesn't, it doesn't. simple and also because being the avoidant person i am, i don't enjoy commitment and needing to discuss every detail. of course that doesn't happen and i have to have the age old "what are we now conversation." terrified and incredibly uncomfortable with the circumstance i have put myself in let him talk first about the situation that occured (this is over text btw). to put things simply, i did not intend on it happening ever again and concluded that we should stay friends, although he wanted to continue things sexually and/or romantically, not too sure. and so i politely decline and say to be just friends and as i send the message, i just know from now on i need to be on my best behavior AND NOT BE FLIRTY WITH THIS PERSON. and then: i never get a response. the feeling goes from annoyance to just plain disappointment and anger. like of course, you don't respond because i guess all im good for is sex, and not as your friend. i say we should stay friends and nothing. i texted that into the abyss, a bottomless pit if you will and it just solidifed that at the end of the day: he is just a man. like am i only just sex to you? am i more than a source of partying, alcohol, and sex to you? this is a thought that came across my mind if i ever had a more in-depth conversation with him about this. this bothered me for a while and i just dont know how or if this friendship is even real or if it ever was. don't get me wrong i love hurting a man's ego as much as the next person, but when your ego stems from misogyny like cmon bruh. the amount of frustration and annoyance i am feeling cannot be tamed at the moment, for all men do is think with their dicks genuinely. couldn't bother talking one ounce more now that sex is off the table. after this whole situation i couldn't help but wonder: is there more to male and female friendships that are beyond sex or do the only opposite-sex friendships have benefits?