as im writing this im currently in a "need to be a whore" time of my life. i haven't hooked up with someone in quite some time and going on wholesome dates (just because they're wholesome doesn't mean they were good btw) isn't going to suffice forever. like the last few dates i went on, the man never even tried to be close to me or asked to kiss me and i have come to the conclusion that maybe it's me. maybe my avoidant scary self is deterring them away (i heavily doubt it men are just pussys these days). not as in im the problem but maybe im not seeking out the right kind of people, it just wasn't a good "fit." which brings up the question and title of the post: does size really matter? whether that be for dick, height, size of the relationship, size of your place, etc. i think going dates so often has made me think about how my list of qualifications is getitng longer and longer. in dating, we're constantly measuring things in a person and if you asked me this a year ago, hell even a few months ago i would've said a lot of things didn't matter...however, i have suddenly become more picky for just about everything. i used not care too much about height since im pretty short, 5'6-5'7 was around where i was comfortable making that the minimum but now, fuck im going for more 5'9-5'10. i have been on dates with enough short guys to realize: they're all bad and/or boring so you my as well find a tall one. is this the kind of greed they talk about in bible? who the fuck knows, but i don't care. but unfortunately there is such thing as "too big" as well. everyone has their limits but honestly the super tall population of men who would be going for me is quite small so it feels irrelevant to bring up. now to the next part: size of the relationship, as we know im avoidant as fuck and im really not trying to be anyone's girlfriend or be in relationship for that matter. will it happen? who knows maybe it will one day and ill find the most perfect person to date in that moment, but there is no way in hell im finding my lifetime partner any time soon. these last few boring men just felt too serious and was giving suburban home with a stable job, where right now in my life im more party any time i can. dick inches is also scary, in both directions: too small and too big. anyways, sometimes you just gotta realize you just aren't a good fit for someone literally and metaphorically. i would say i have a large, bulge- i mean bold (lol) personality and not everyone can take that much at once, not everyone has to be a personality throatgoat and sometimes people's personalities are small and boring and it can feel like nothing when you're with them. i think the title today is fitting cause it's so common to think about it and this is a question everyone asks, but never likes the answer: obviously it's yes. but there are a few no's sometimes too. it's all about finding where you can align and fit.