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this question has stumped me for some time. because i have been on dates and with people where we either talk about them or avoid it, and they all ended poorly so i suppose either way it doesn't matter, so this is more so a continuous question rather than a conclusion. i sat and thought about this and honestly (weirdly) it's based off how you met. for example, (almost) all the hinge dates i've been on the guy always asks if you have any bad hinge stories or about the guys on hinge and hinge dating scene from a female perspective and that second part, they should know its shit cause im already on a date with you, but i digress. i came up with this unoriginal idea during a very boring date that many people will think about and continue to think about and that's if you should bring up past partners/experiences/people. im honestly not too sure why i thought about this in that exact moment, probably cause i was going th esame dilemma in my head. its a hard and loaded question (yk what else is hard and loaded? ;) okay i'll stop now lol) because honesty but also social cues. to be honest, sometimes i do talk about it if the topic arises just to spite them, just to remind them that i have been with other people, but of course i haven't really like the person im going on a date on so it doesn't really matter. when i did my field research and asked my friends this question and majority say if its necessary then yes, but other than that avoid it as much as possible. heck i was talking to a guy once who told about the girl who was going on a date with at that second. some people just don't know barriers or have so many like they're locked in solitary confinement, but idk which tactic is better. i think its safe to say to not bring them up ever unless asked to do so.