this thought came to me from one of my friends and watching a youtube video essay about samantha from sex and the city. my friend has many unfortunate endeavors with men, none of course are her fault, and they just really do her dirty in these situations like making out with a different girl in front of her or texting her once a day after fucking. very fucked up i know. and i couldn't help but wonder: where is the line drawn from embracing sexuality and one's sex drive to needing validation through men and hooking up? in society we are often too quick to measure someone's libido from the people they've been with and other times we praise it, but why does it change? i instantly thought of samantha because she's been a fan favorite from the show is described to be very comfortable in her sexuality, independent, and powerful. humans are incredibly predisposed to have sex, but sex drive i think is what gets criticized or open honest sexuality, but both are basically the same.